Winter is slowly making its way to Sweden. I opened the door of my house yesterday and was greeted by the most picturesque view ever of ice frosted over all the branches in visible sight. It wasn’t the heavy snow of Connecticut but a lighter,prettier type of sugar frosting that made the whole of Stockholm look like something out of a postcard. Pictures to be posted on facebook soon.
The sky was also blue for a substantial period of time, perhaps the longest episode of blueness I’ve seen in about a month. I had lunch with Chaz, where we proceeded to have our second conversation-rich lunch in about a week. Too bad the ramen place I wanted to head to was closed (for “inventory”. Who closes a restaurant during lunchtime for inventory? Where else will they get their money?!) but we found this really authentic indian restaurant with cheap lunches, delicious food and a charming hole-in-the-wall atmosphere. They even served lunch on one of those age-old silver plates like what you get in Southeast Asia. After dinner with my host parents, I headed to Fridhemsplan to meet the others for drinks in a quiet pub.
Unfortunately, the quiet pub threw me out because I lacked “proper identification” despite the fact that my international student card has worked in every other pub in Stockholm, the “system bolaget” where I actually purchase alcohol and the rest of Scandinavia where I visited. They demanded to see my passport, but let all the other IDs go through– including the American drivers’ license that isn’t a passport either. Also, they have never bothered asking Chaz and Ellen for their IDs, in the months that they’ve been going there.They also refused to accept my Stockholm university student union card, claiming that they won’t know if it’s real since they’ve never seen it before– despite the fact that it’s in Swedish while the American drivers’ license is in English. All the above, coupled with the lady’s unbelievably rude demeanour to me and the manager’s demand that I leave immediately, led all of us to conclude that it seemed like a racially-tinged bias more than anything. Since as usual, I was the only Asian of the group. If anything, Ellen and Chaz (who have been going there almost weekly) were really stunned by how aggressive and impolite they were, since they’ve been nothing but courteous and wonderful to them before and Chaz was the one who brought up the race dimension as a possible explanation. My personal take on it is: a pub has the right to accept or reject any identification they want. But to demand to see a passport is slightly out there, since why would I bring my passport to a pub? Especially since every other Scandinavian establishment has accepted my ID before. Furthermore, while I accept that they have every right to reject my international student ID (I mean, Zouk had rejected it before too), I really took offense at their general attitude and demeanour. They were losing business from 6 people and they need to work on their customer service.
That said,we refused to let the event face and and proceeded to a different pub where we had a rolicking good time. We chatted about everything for a good 2 hours and grabbed some Macdonalds before I ran off to catch my late train back. Margarita night tonight!
So my program mates have been getting frustrated by my tenacious refusal to stop talking about the Tiger Woods fiasco. Responses range from “every famous rich guy has an affair. what is the big fucking deal” (Max) to “is anyone talking about the poor labor practices of the tiger woods hotel in bangkok? no! so i dun give a freak about him banging other women” (Ellen) to “I’m so sick of it.” (Sara). So it appears that in this case, I’m alone.
Can I just say! That my dad’s a golfer and I know how important respectable behavior is to a golfer. It’s supposed to be telling of your personality and your CHARACTER. Golf is a gentleman’s game and louts can find their way off the fair and onto a soccer field. Can I also say, that because my dad is an avid golfer whose dream would be to turn professional if he had the skills but is otherwise content to eat his chicken and drink his beer on the course, I’ve been watching golf on TV since I was a kid. I used to adore Tiger Woods and would love it everytime he came onscreen. I looked up to him, respected him. Was a real fan. I bought into his image, the very image that he constructed. Of an invincible athlete, the last of his vanguard and the closest thing we’ll get to perfection on the course with comparable character in the person bringing that perfection. Part of that image was his role as a man and a father, and as a decent person. He made that image that way. He also made money, millions of dollars off this very image. My mum was going to buy my dad the over $1000 Tag Heur Tiger Woods watch because Tiger was a star! A wicked athlete who didn’t need orgies or bling bling or excess.We wanted the trappings that he endorsed because we believed in what he stood for.
This whole fiasco has been such a disillusionment. I know what people are saying– that he’s made distasteful jokes in GQ as early as 1997. That there were signs of his actual personality coming through long before, through his temper tantrums on the field and whispers of infidelity among those in the “know”. Well, so fucking what? It’ll be one thing if everyone knew Tiger Woods as some skirt-chasing, alcohol-swigging, misogynistic male. Then I really wouldn’t care that he’s supposedly banged 4 women with more coming up because it’ll be in line with the character that I’ve been exposed to. But that is not the case! Woods would talk about how much he loves his wife. Would wax lyrical about how he’ll get up earlier in the morning to train so that he can feed his daughter. And right now, I’m experiencing what I believe to be very legitimate anger and a sense of betrayal of my realization that I’ve been suckered into believing a lie.
So Tiger Woods, you cheating bastard and miserable excuse of a father. I hope Elin really did come over you with a golf club, because it’ll be nothing less than what you deserve. I hope she takes all your money away and that you get booed when you get on the golf course. You prick.
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